“Your life, your canvas” is the theme for World AIDS Day this year and is inspired by the notion that we are all responsible for painting the canvas of our own lives. What we choose to put on that canvas is entirely up to us, and the choices we make all contribute to a constantly evolving picture.

We shape our lives by the choices we make. Every choice we make takes us in a different direction. Whatever we do now will definitely affect us in later part of our lives. I totally agree with this.

Here’s how you can do to make a difference this World AIDS Day:

• I’ve done my part by joining the Twibbon campaign on Twitter. Get yours too!
• Countdown to World AIDS Day, December 1 by embedding a special countdown clock on your blog:
  

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• Join us on Saturday, December 5, from 6pm – 10pm at SupperClub Singapore for an exclusive World AIDS Day event of art, music and dance.

Wanna join me in this event? Comment and tell me your views and feelings after watching “August 29″. I have 5 pairs of passes to give away. Don’t be shy!

Here is a thought-provoking short film, “August 29″, created by HPB and a group of young people, to start people thinking about opening their hearts and fighting discrimination against people with HIV/AIDS. It was first screened at HPB’s “Open Your Heart” event last year.

P/S: Lawrence Wong looks really cute!

Do help spread the word for World AIDS Day!

Men

• To know whether a man really loves you, look at his actions and ignore his words!
• A man always has a purpose for doing what he’s doing.
• Guys always enjoy a challenge, so ensure that you play hard to get, make him work for you. However, guys doesn’t enjoy a woman playing so hard to get to the extent where she climbs over his head, so play your cards right.
• When a man truly loves a woman, all other girls or members of the female species will fade into oblivion. He won’t be bothered with all the other women, no matter how gorgeous or sexy or pretty they are. His attention is on you and you only.
• He will go to great lengths to make you happy because he himself will be very happy if he knows that he can satisfy and please his woman, that is, if he really loves the woman.
• A man will do anything, and I mean anything, to get what he wants. He’ll do whatever it takes to make you stay, even if it means lying. Why? He loves himself more than he loves you!
• A man who truly loves you will always put your best interests at heart.
• A man who truly loves you will always make you his first priority even if it means he has to sacrifice.
• Men need our understanding more than they need our love. In fact, when you understand men, they will love you for it. To men, understanding them is more important than loving them.
• Men commit to women who make them feel good about themselves.
• A real man will take responsibility for his actions and follow through on his promises.
• Many men are simply hindered by their egos.
• When he takes the initiative to work for you, reward him appropriately be it in the form of a simple kiss, hug or whatever you can think of. DO NOT treat him extra nice when he didn’t even deserve it, because he’ll start taking you for granted.
• Men can sense when you are trying too hard. Because you put him on a higher-status than you, he sees you as lower-status and it’s unlikely he will remain attracted to a woman who’s perceived to be of a lower status than him.
• Men can be very focused on their goals. That’s why they can usually handle only one thing at a time whereas women find it easier to multi-task.
• Men care more about the “consequences” or “effects” of their actions, thus the “I’m just looking at women, I’m not sleeping with them, no harm done, what’s the big deal” attitude.
• For most men, “neediness” and “insecurity” are the enemies of attraction and can literally kill a relationship. That’s why you hear men saying they need “space”. Men want to distance themselves from you because they no longer feel attracted to you.
• Men just don’t flow in the emotional realm the same way as women do.
• Faithfulness is always a struggle for men, and must be learned. Some men are, frankly, not man enough to WIN that struggle.
• Men fall in love through “imagination”.
• One of the reasons why men find it difficult to commit and get married to one woman for life is that he’s afraid that the woman will change after marriage.
• Men want to feel wanted, respected and admired by their women.

Women

• If you are not hard to get, you are easy to forget.
• You will likely get the best when you don’t settle for the rest.
• Learn to be being happy with and without a man. Only when you can be really happy with yourself will you be happy with men.
• A girl who freely gives out hugs, kisses or even sexual favours will be indirectly telling the guy that she has literally no value to her, since she gives away these so easily.
• Most women are NOT materialistic. We don’t need a man to have millions in the bank but we do need them to have enough money to allow us to live at a basic comfort level.
• Women care very much about the “meanings” of things such as the meaning of what men do, what men say, what men buy for us etc.
• We women want to feel safe. We want to know that men will always be there for us when we need and don’t need them.
• We women want a mentally “strong” man to be able to resist temptations and control their primal desires.
• We women want a real man, not a beast in man’s clothing.
• We look down on men who go around sleeping with women because such men allow their animalistic desires to take control of their behaviour. They are literally slaves to their primal desires. How different are they from beasts?
• On the other hand, we respect men who have the strength to control their animalistic desires and do so effectively. We call them “real men”.
• Confidence is what comes first, then you get the success.
• For men to really love you, you need to really love yourself.
• Women tend to think more into the future. We are always thinking so far ahead that it becomes difficult to live in the present moment.
• We not only believe what we see but often, we see what we believe.
• Change starts with accepting yourself in your present state.
• We cannot change men but we can INSPIRE them to change. The right man will be inspired by the right woman.
• You allow his actions to tell you whether he’s the right one but you don’t try to change his actions in order to make him the right one.

Relationships

• Every relationship is a learning journey. You learn to understand yourself and you learn to understand the opposite sex.
• Many people don’t get what they want simply because they don’t know what they want.
• Don’t be afraid of challenges. Ride with them and ride through them.
• We all need people outside of the relationship to help us “see” what we can’t see by ourselves and advise accordingly.
• What you feel about something is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.
• Be present and happy in the here and now.
• Realise that in this very moment, you are just fine the way you are.
• When we give love freely, we receive more love in return.

Men and ladies out there, do you agree with the above? Then again, here’s an interesting article on how to make your relationship succeed or fail. Happy reading!

Have other views? Feel free to comment

Even if you are one, it’s always better to keep everything to yourself behind closed doors. Don’t you ever think that your blog will only be read by your friends.

Seriously, why should one insult another when the other party didn’t even know her in the first place? Why should we judge someone by merely a link on the internet?!

A screenshot taken from her blog.

Ms. Cynthia, didn’t you read the papers recently of how a racist guy got caught by posting undesirable remarks about Malays? It’s not even the first time though. Don’t you read the news at all? Yeah, and you’re gonna get sued. Just as you wish.

IMO, Malays are an extreme bunch of fun people. Take my friend for instance =)

This is Erin. She’s one of the sweetest and humorous person I’ve ever met. Guess her favourite song? Milkshake by Kelis, inspired by Amanda Sommers from Ugly Betty :s I can still vividly remember how she would actually dance whenever I requested for it :D Don’t know what I’m saying? Watch the clip.

My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard,
And they’re like,
It’s better than yours,
Damn right it’s better than yours,
I can teach you,
But I have to CHARGE~~~

Erin sings better though =)

• Get my driving licence
• Get a proper full-time job and stay on for at least a year
• Lose weight, at least 3 kgs
• Finish up furnishing my pig sty
• Skip 100 counts at least twice a week
• More personal savings
• Spend more time with my loved ones and friends
• … and the list goes on

Stress has been extremely overwhelming for the past few weeks. Had the feeling that my health is deteriorating and my body may crumble any moment. It’s gonna be a hectic 2 years from now on. I’m feeling the burden already omg

I have an interview tomorrow and hopefully, what I’ve learnt in school for the past few years could be put into use for that job :wiggle: But first and foremost, I need to grab the chance of getting that job (though i didn’t do any preparation for it :p ). At least if I get that job, I don’t have to listen to angry customers complaining almost everyday and saying sorry for countless times each day wtf It’s such a torture to me. What we’ve learnt during the training period are all bullshit. All the empathy stuff are crap. Don’t understand why do we have to endure all their nonsense, we aren’t even professional psychologists. Also, the management is taking us for granted. They wanted us to make things easy for them, but they don’t do so for us.

Can’t help it anyway. Products sucks, company sucks, policies sucks, and the people aren’t any better. The stupid team leader don’t even bother to help clear the call queue at all. All she does is to say “Guys, call queue.” and looking at the call statistics for the whole day. Duh. So much so for being the biggest software company :argh:

Customer Service? wtf Forget it. It’s the worst job ever. And I’m not gonna step into this trade again. It’s so much better to be a consumer. At least we get to rant :p

When the trust between two parties is broken, it’s broken forever…

Dears, I’ve cooled down and am fine. Thanks for all the messages, smses and concern =) Realized that I ought to be contented as I have a healthy body, awesome buddies and wonderful family to be there for me as and when I need it. Muacks :kiss:

Maybe, just maybe. I should just arouse my evil twin someday…

To be a detestable person.

To be someone whom everyone hates.

To be someone who is heartless to the core.

To be someone who is freaking cruel.

To be someone who would not get taken for granted.

To be someone who forgets about everything and everyone.

To be someone who don’t bother about how others think or feel.

To be a selfish bitch.

To be someone without emotions or soul.

Just stop giving me the nonchalant attitude. I seriously need a brainwash to get rid of all these thoughts.

坐在这角落 心里很多话想说
我和你的错 就是舍不得放手

深爱你的我 早就应该让你自由
知道我以后 需要一直往前走

也许是越在乎 越会彼此的伤害
这样的爱情 又算是什么

爱不在 应该让自己从回忆中离开
爱不在 我们都已不存在彼此未来

有时候 对爱又太深太多依赖
好像你失去在这世界
还能够 孤单的自由

是曾经有的梦 现在只剩一场空
心里好多疑问 你忘了你的承诺

笑我自己没有用 眼泪无言的流下来
知道还是要面对 这段感情的伤痛

是因为越在乎 给彼此伤害更多
有了距离以后 看到不同的你和我

爱不在 慢慢让自己从回忆离开
爱不在 我们都已不存在彼此未来

有时候 对你还是会有关怀
可是心里已经太明白
不是爱 不是爱

爱不在 应该让自己从回忆中离开
爱不在 我们都已不存在彼此未来

有时候 不管对爱有多少的依赖
就算再不愿意再伤心
我明白 我们只能放手

But I know, I need to stay strong and firm :(

A few days ago, we met up with this cab driver who nearly drove us all around Singapore. Took the cab from the Singapore Zoo and was heading towards Funan DigitaLife Mall when he started bringing us all the way to Choa Chu Kang/Upper Bukit Timah before heading to the expressway wth We were wondering why would he go all the way to CCK when he could just head towards Rochor Road. Obviously, he is making use of the heavy traffic in hope to increase the meter fare discreetly. When we started asking him about it, he did not even bother to give us a reply and continued driving. How rude?! wtf

And then this morning, I took 518 @ 0830 hours from my workplace. I was extremely exhausted from the shift the previous night and was catching a short nap in the bus when I heard the bus driver shouting at the top of his voice all of a sudden. Apparently, he had forgotten the way to Pasir Ris and was asking for assistance through the system. The ironic thing is, he started driving the bus from Orchard to Tanjong Katong, then to Geylang and back to Orchard again! :doh: Not only that, he nearly endangered the lives of the 3 ladies in the bus (including mine of course) by stopping the bus in the middle of the expressway and ignoring the heavy traffic. Furthermore, he even had the nerve to honk other drivers when he was the one at fault. A normal 30 minutes journey took almost 1 hour 15 minutes today :sigh:

How do we stop drivers from making these mistakes? hmm Too tired to think as well, I have a huge load of backdated stuff to blog but no time to do so! :argh:

We know the situation you face in your life. I have given you advices, not that you don’t know. But you simply refused to listen or heed my advice and chose to be pessimistic. My dear, no one is picking on you, finding fault in you, hate you, making use of you, or treat you as a spare tyre. But you chose to believe that, believe what you assume. Believe what you think is right. And kept thinking that she purposely picked on you, when in fact, that was not the case at all.

Like what she had said, we have gone through what you are actually going through right now. It’s inevitable and is our responsibility to point out any mistakes that our juniors had made. It’s all about learning from your own mistakes. Furthermore, the mistakes you did could possibly result in getting your colleagues into trouble. It might be insignificant to you, but others may not feel this way. Listen when others give you advices and teach you about the trade. Learn the hard way and be patient.

I believe you have been in the service industry before and have seen all sorts of nasty and weird customers. Yes, all of us make mistakes. And we had our taste of medicine already, getting scolded by unreasonable customers and team leaders. Each and everyone of us here have our own problems, who doesn’t? Bringing your personal problems to work will only make your life more miserable. Sometimes, it isn’t our day and customers tend to make us really frustrated. Didn’t we still carry on with our life? Why should you make a mountain out of a mole hill?!

I have known my friend since at the age of 13. 9 years in fact. We’ve seen each other grew up, know about each other’s secrets, discussed about our own problems, joke together, eat together, play together, cry together, laugh together, etc. So I don’t understand, why should you judge her based on your assumption when you’ve only knew her for less than 3 months?! Frankly speaking, throughout my whole life, I have never seen her flare up for nothing. I believe everything happens for a reason and I know, she has a reason for doing so.

None of us is biased or purposely picking on anyone. You should really change the way you think. No one in this world is perfect, neither do anyone of us at OADQ. I believe everything is about teamwork, patience and making this job an enjoyable one.

Learn to give, take and share. Life is not that bad as you think.